There’s no question that living with your significant other is an adjustment in the beginning. Whether it was a step you proactively discussed before-hand, or one of those things you just fell into after too many consecutive sleepovers. You have to learn to share space, time, money (don’t even get me started on that), it can all be a bit overwhelming. There’s always some stubborn stand-offs and arguments, maybe even some threats of leaving that neither of you ever really mean. Eventually though, you get into a groove and you find your way together. You get into patterns with each other and you become comfortable being yourself in front of the other person.
It’s a relief when you think about it, to find someone who isn’t revolted at the sight of you in the middle of a nasty flu that left your hair unwashed for a stupid amount of days. I’ve lived with my boyfriend for about 4 years now, and we’ve definitely moved well past the point of feeling self conscious around one another. For the most part we’re so accustomed to the way the other person goes about their daily routine that we can usually predict how they’ll react when the unexpected is thrown at them. Like most couples in our situation, we’ve learned all the tells and we are unphased by our respective poker faces. We know what buttons not to push, and we can quickly detect when they’ve been pushed by someone or something else.
We’d been in the same groove for quite a while, the same day to day routine. I’d been working out of an office 45 to 50 hours a week, for as long as I could remember. While I have always been restless and changed roles a few times, he has worked very hard with one company to achieve his current title. With his hard work, also came the opportunity for him to work primarily from home. Of course there are always a few times a week where his presence is required, but for the most part he has the freedom to work from his “home office”. I call it the couch, but hey whatever makes him happy :D.
So I’m not going to bullsh*t anyone, I’ve always been jealous of the freedom his schedule allows him. To someone that has always spent 3/4 of her adult life away from home in an office, he’s living the freaking dream!
Now I find myself gifted with the amazing chance to make working from home my reality too, and while I am insanely grateful…there are certain things I did not consider.
I love him don’t get me wrong, but he is always here. Everywhere I am, there he is. I’m sure it’s no picnic for him either, I mean technically this is his territory and I just stole some of it. When you only have 750 sqft to begin with, there’s not a whole lot to steal! I got lucky the first few weeks after I stopped working, he was in the midst of his “busy season” so he genuinely was gone most days. Sidenote: here’s to all the couples that both work from home, or work together, or are just straight up in each other’s space all day long.
If any of you are reading this, please leave me some tips on how you don’t go crazy in the comments section. Anyways, now it’s slow and he’s here all the time and I am totally using this as a crutch to not get my sh*t handled! Last night was Sunday night, so I decided that on Monday (today) I would start fresh and get to work on my site as if it is my day job. Err hold up…I guess it technically is my day job now. Anddd I just realized I’ve been basically calling in sick to life for the past little while. Damn it. See! I am not good at the self-discipline thing. Not yet anyways (#yesican).
Anyways, before bed last night I asked my boyfriend if he had to work today, when he told me no, I succumbed to the fact that I would finally have to put my own foot down.
Babe, tomorrow can you do me a favour and ignore me?
He immediately suggested I stop spending my days on the couch snuggling our puppy and watching him
play video games work. Before concluding that ignoring me would not be a challenge. Okay fine funny man, touché or whatever.
I gotta hand it to him though, the man loves to give me a hard time (I do make it easy LOL), but he honored my request and has essentially ignored me today. He even helped me clear some space in the dining room to set up a work station for myself.
In fact our most extensive conversation was when he let me know we didn’t have enough margarine for him to make eggs. In other words: “babe, can you get more Becel?”.
Today has definitely been more productive than some of my other days lately, but I know the reality is I need to keep this up.
Next up has to be conquering my issues with procrastination. I’ve been thinking a huge part of it might be that I haven’t really created any structure for myself. The game plan is to make a daily, weekly, and monthly goal list. The daily and weekly will be to help me stay on track, and the monthly I will review everything at month’s end to document my progress and see what areas I might need to work on for next month.
So in effort to kick my own ass into gear and start somewhere, I’ve compiled some small goals and tasks that I’d like to get done by days end.
- Create a list of long overdue household tasks
- Create a daily chore schedule
- Make a goal list for the blog
- Find a workout plan that doesn’t make me want to die, and stick to it.
- Clean all the clothes off of my beautiful rocking chair. (Hands up if you have a chair that is also home to an endless pile of clothing :D) UPDATE: I actually cleaned the chair…and my closet, and I purged a TON of stuff. You can check out my post of tips on how to clean your closet out, when you’re like me and have a problem with keeping…everything LOL)
- Buy more Becel so the boyfriend can make his eggs tomorrow. LOL THE MOST IMPORTANT UPDATE: This was immediately and properly resolved 😀 😀
- Make more granola, work on sharing the recipe in a post:D UPDATE: You can find that granola recipe here!
Let’s see how much of this I can get done, baby steps guys! So ya’ll have any suggestions for how to adjust to working from home? Even people that are doing school online, how do you do it?! Huge props to all you fantastically disciplined folks out there, please share your knowledge! I’m going to try any and all suggestions 🙂