Growing up I was fortunate enough to have a mother that was wholeheartedly dedicated to teaching me how to live the happiest life that I could. Whether it was straightforward advice, a subtle nudge in the right direction, or allowing me to learn my own lessons (sometimes the hard way), she was always offering guidance in one way or another.
Throughout my twenties I’ve found myself having more and more moments where I stop dead in my tracks and think “holy shit, she was right…again.”. Not that I’m ever surprised that she was right. But, for all those moments of angsty teen hell she endured, it definitely makes me chuckle when I admit to myself the number of times her advice has been incredibly on point.
One thing that’s always stayed true over the years has been my mom’s humble attitude as she’s watched me go through life. I remember once years ago, I was watching TV with my parents and an episode of Will & Grace came on. The episode focused primarily on Grace’s relationship with her mother and her mother’s incessant need to do the “I told ya so” dance whenever she proved her daughter wrong. I remember being so glad that despite all the times my mom was so right and I was oh so wrong, she never once rubbed it in my face.
And believe me, she could have. LOL.
So as a kind of homage to all the years of advice and life lessons I’ll never forget, I thought I’d share some of my favourites with you guys 🙂 .
1) If you see something you love at Winners (or Marshalls), and you can afford it, you should probably buy it because it’s not going to be there tomorrow. In Canada, we all know Winners and Marshalls are the ultimate places for affordable one of a kind finds. I learned at a young shopping age that if you pass up one of those finds once, you will probably never see them again. Despite where you live, this advice probably rings true with most cheap and/or clearance items 🙂 . My mom raised me to be a thrifty shopper, so learning to take advantage of random sale items is definitely something that’s stuck with me.
2) When all seems lost, take things 5 minutes at a time. About 6 years ago I went through my first really challenging break up. When I called my mom to tell her the news, it was right before I had to leave for work. I was struggling to keep myself together enough to get through the shift, all I wanted to do was hibernate in my apartment and never come out. My mom could have acted shocked, upset, or overly concerned…but she didn’t. Calm as always in the heat of a crisis she just said;
We can talk about how you’re going to handle being at work later, for now let’s look at what you need to do to be okay for the next 5 minutes.
It was hard in the moment but I listened and did what she said. Five minutes at a time, and I try to remember that in every moment since where I’ve felt lost or in crises. What do I need to get through the next 5 minutes? Just the next five, we can worry about the rest after. Fun fact: we have matching rings, pictured above that are engraved to say “One moment at a time”.
3) Never ever settle. When I was growing up tear-away pants were a big deal. Specifically, the Champion brand, with the little “C” shaped logo at the top of the left thigh. All the 90’s kids know what I’m talking about 🙂 . Anyways, I forget how old I was, but I needed these pants the way I currently need coffee in the mornings. Aka, something fierce. I really wanted the black ones ( I think they had black, navy, white, and red if I remember correctly). So I’m in this store with my mom, and I finally have the money saved for these pants…and they only have my size in navy. Not the black I’d originally wanted.
My childlike need for instant gratification prompted me to tell my mom I was just going to buy the navy ones. To which she replied was fine, so long as I was okay with settling for something I didn’t want. Well, damn. I didn’t really want the navy ones, and maybe settling was in some ways a waste of money. I decided to wait until I found the black pair in my size, and I was so much happier having not settled. And even though that moment was mainly about a pair of pants, I took her words to heart and I’ve been applying them to my life ever since.
There you have it guys! Three awesome and fun pieces of advice that my mom will always be undeniably right about:) .
What are some of your favourite pieces of advice your mom has shared with you?